Problems in a Perfect Couple

Relationship problem: communication

According to Elaine Fantle Shimberg, author of Blending Families, all relationship problems are due to poor communication. "You can not communicate while you're checking your cell phone, watching TV or flipping through the sports section," he says. (Sorgen, s.f.)

The lack of communication can cause serious problems in relationships, because if they do not communicate, they do not know the things that bother them, or what they would like the other to do.

                                                         

                                                                         (Mattia, 2017)

Problem solving strategies:

Make a real appointment between them, says Shimberg. If you live together, put the cell phones on vibration, put the children to bed and let the voicemail pick up your calls. If you can not "communicate" without raising your voice, go to a public place like the library, the park or the restaurant, where you would be ashamed if someone saw you scream. Set some rules Try not to interrupt until your partner is talking, or ban phrases like "Always ..." or "Never ...". Use body language to show that you are listening. Do not scribble, look at your watch or cut your nails. Not for the other person to know that you are receiving the message, and reformulate if necessary. For example, say: "What I hear you say is that you feel you have more homework, even though we both work." If you're right, the other can confirm. If what the other person really meant was: "Hey, you're a slob and you create more work for me by having to pick up after you", you can say, but in a more pleasant way. Relationship problem: communication (Sorgen, s.f.)

As you can see we know that there will always be one way or another to solve problems, if they do not reach a solution, this means that this relationship does not allow for more, and this affects a lot if the couple has already formed a family.